Women Holding It All

“I got it!”

Is this your usual mode of living?

You can hit every beat in your life. You make it to work, live on little sleep, take care of children if you’ve got them, and are always available to help. Because you got it. You can push through a migraine, care for an elder, support your friends, keep up with all the podcasts, wash your items for recycling and remember all the important events. Yes you can multitask! Because you got it.

Except that maybe “I got it” has you feeling worn out, juggling 10 balls in the air. Maybe you have little time or energy for real connection with your partner, loved ones, or yourself, and you are just some pretzel-knotted-version of you.
And still you hold up the worlds of all those you care for.

And it’s not like you don’t know. You do. You know about self-care and breathing and taking walks and setting boundaries and sometimes you do those things.
But it’s not happening in a way that is enough.

You handle so much. Women handle so much. Significant changes in your body and your mood throughout your entire life. Sexism. Oppression. Expectations for who and how you are supposed to be, what you are supposed to do, how you are supposed to do it, and with what kind of attitude.

You need a space.

How about “Not It!” instead of “I got it”?

Here are some of the topics with which I assist women:

  • Young Adulting

  • Infertility, Pregnancy, Post-partum

  • Parenting (see below for group)

  • Dating

  • Relationship concerns

  • Creating space for you

  • Grief

  • Divorce

  • Helping too much

  • Inter-generational care giving

  • Raising kids of color

  • Mood

  • Trauma

  • Menopause

  • Finding a way to get your needs met

  • Rage quitting

  • Making your 85 year old self happy

  • Work Place Stress

  • Over-functioning

  • Family of Origin Concerns

Not It

    • Wash your face in the morning and evening. Or better yet, take a shower.

    • Go outside.

    • Eat something that tastes good.

    • Ponder this: “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” - Lily Tomlin

    • If you have a moment to yourself, do not clean, organize, or coordinate others’ lives.

    • Don’t be “It.”

  • A weekly group to support each other in momhood, relationships, and the rest. See more here.