Women Holding It All

“I got it!”

Is this your usual mode of living?

You can hit every beat in your life. You make it to work, live on little sleep, take care of children if you’ve got them, and are always available to help. Because you GOT IT. You can push through a migraine, care for an elder, support your friends, listen to all the podcasts, wash your items for recycling and remember all the important events. Because you GOT IT.

There are people you manage in your life and you do it so well they don’t even know you are keeping them afloat. And you’re tired of being the boat. Maybe you’re in a relationship or a marriage that is wearing you out and wearing you thin. Maybe you have little time or energy for real connection with your partner, loved ones, or yourself, and you are just some irritated-squeezed-knotted-version of you. So you stay up too late when everyone is asleep because that’s when you’ve got your peace.

Maybe your needs are mixed up with everyone else’s needs and it’s hard to know the difference.

Maybe you’re just angry.

Is there space for your creativity? Your imagination? Space for you to have your own thoughts?

And it’s not like you don’t know. You do. You know about self-care and breathing and taking walks and setting boundaries and sometimes you do those things. Maybe you and your friends have formed some sort of seven nation army over text and this definitely helps.

But there are just so many daily expectations about who and how you are supposed to be, what you are supposed to do, how you are supposed to do it, and with what kind of attitude.

You need your own space.

“NOT IT.”

How I Can Assist

  • Young Adulting

  • Infertility, Pregnancy, Post-partum

  • Parenting (see below for group)

  • Relationships: Dating, Navigating, Ending

  • Creating space for you

  • Inter-generational care giving

  • Family of Origin

  • Being a spouse of someone with ADHD

  • Identifying needs

  • Rage quitting

  • Making your 85 year old self happy

  • Work Place Stress

  • Over-functioning

Not It

    • Wash your face in the morning and evening. Or better yet, take a shower.

    • Go outside.

    • Eat something that tastes good.

    • Ponder this: “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” - Lily Tomlin

    • If you have a moment to yourself, do not clean, organize, or coordinate others’ lives.

    • Don’t be “It.”

  • Are you a parent? This is a weekly group to support each other in momhood, relationships, and the rest. See more here.