Women Holding It All
“I got it!”
Is this your usual mode of living?
You hit every single beat in your life. You make it to work, survive on little sleep, care for children if you have them, and are always available to help. Because you got it. You push through migraines, care for elders, support friends, listen to the podcasts, wash your recycling, and remember every important event. Because you got it.
There are people you manage in your life so well they don't even realize you are keeping them afloat. You are holding the executive functioning bag for everyone around you—and you are tired of being the boat.
Maybe your relationship or marriage is wearing you thin. You have little energy left for real connection with your partner, your loved ones, or yourself. You are living as an irritated, squeezed, knotted version of you, staying up way too late when everyone else is asleep just to find a sliver of peace.
Maybe your needs are entirely mixed up with everyone else's, and it's hard to know the difference. Maybe you are just quietly irritable and angry.
Is there any space left for your creativity? Your imagination? Space for you to have your own thoughts?
And it’s not like you don’t know. You do. You know about self-care and breathing and taking walks and setting boundaries and sometimes you do those things. Maybe you and your friends have formed some sort of seven nation army over text and this definitely helps.
But there are just so many daily expectations about who and how you are supposed to be, what you are supposed to do, how you are supposed to do it, and with what kind of attitude.
You need your own space.
NOT IT.
You are allowed to step away from the center of everyone else’s world.
How I Can Support You
Life Transitions: Navigating the intense executive and emotional demands of young adulting, dating, or relationship endings.
Perinatal & Parenting Support: Gentle space for pregnancy, postpartum exhaustion, and parenting neurodivergent individuals.
Generational Boundaries: Sorting through family of origin patterns and the heavy weight of inter-generational caregiving.
Over-Functioning Recovery: Breaking the cycle of chronic over-functioning, workplace stress, and the fear of "rage quitting."
Reclaiming Autonomy: Identifying your true, independent needs, cultivating creative space, and making your 85-year-old self proud.
Finding Community: Connecting with spaces to softly land, find validating people, and rejuvenate alongside others.
Not It
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Somatic Reset: Wash your face in the morning and evening. Or better yet, stand in a warm shower and just breathe.
Change the View: Step outside onto the earth for two minutes.
Pure Sensory Comfort: Eat something that tastes genuinely good to you.
Ponder this: “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” —
Lily Tomlin
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Don’t Pick Up the Labor: If you manage to catch a rare moment to yourself, do not clean, organize, or coordinate other people's lives.
Don’t Be It: The world will keep turning if you lay down the bag for an hour.
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